by tesmond » Fri Feb 22, 2008 12:54 pm
Boredom is a state of mind, nothing to do with the city. If you are bored anywhere it is your fault. I live in the UK, I have visited NYC, Rio, SaoP, Chicago...you could be in the middle of carnvival in Rio and be bored if you wanted to, or you could be in the salt flats of Africa on your own and be having the most amazing time. Really it is up to you.
I want to live in Brazil for a few years, there are many amazing things you can only find in Brazil. Of course for every good point you could name a bad point such as the bureaucracy, the drunk driving, the poor sewage systems and in some places the high crime rates are a bit off putting to say the least.
We all like different aspects of our home and our culture, but it is a little narrow minded to not see the good aspects of NYC or indeed to think it is a boring place!
My Brazilian ex-wife grew to dislike England, she said that the neighbours never talk to each other no one is friendly and everyone is very cold. Now she is back in Sao Paulo she is crying about how her family and friends will not help her out.
What my ex-wife saw as cold and unfriendly I saw as respecting peoples privacy. This is a simple cultural difference. However, as my friends stood by and offered their support during my divorce, my wive's Brazilian friends faded away. Although my friends were "cold" and "unfriendly" and her's were extrovert and exuberent, in the end they were not true friends.
I am now engaged to another Brazilian woman...I swear there are more Brazilians where I live than English people ;) Anyway I stayed in her city for a month. There is nothing wrong with her city, but she cannot wait to come back to England, her best friend who live there is now living in Madrid and does not want to go back, and I met two more of her friends from London who want to go back to London as soon as possible. Of course one of her other friends was living in the UK and couldnt wait to get back to Brazil. Everyone is different!
Anyway I ended up writing too much, but what I really wanted to say was you cannot be bored if you enjoy the company of those around you and your own company, where you are is not that important.